I’ve decided wrtie a post on the topic of self-confidence for three reasons, all having something to do with religion: First, there are the rather extraordinary claims made by New Agey types about the supposed power of belief to change the world in any way you please. Second, self-confidence is a frequently cited (by no less a philosopher than William James) as a case of belief that’s okay to have in spite of lack of evidence. Finally, there’s a lot to be said for the thought that most people have way too much self-confidence, something that’s of interest to anyone who cares about having rational beliefs.
If you’re like most people who read blogs like mine–religious skeptics who do a fair amount of reading and thinking about religion–you probably have the easiest time deciding what to think about the third point. You’ve almost certainly encountere people who can be ridiculously confident about their beliefs even when wrong. You’ve probably heard about the psychological research done on this subject, which has produced such nice gems as the fact that most people rate themselves “above average” in damn near everything. If you’ve read conservative commentators railing against the self-esteem movement, you may have decided that’s the one issue where you’ll throw in your lot with theirs.
Once you’ve got that, it can feel like you’ve got an easy answer on the first two points: excessive self-confidence is bad, we should be trying to bring our beliefs about ourselves in line with reality, so self-confidence isn’t an example of a belief that’s okay to have in the face of self-confidence. As for the supposed power of belief, attributed to everyone from western faith-healers to eastern coal-walking monks, there’s no evidence for the extraordianry things attributed to it, and it should be seen as a con used by charlatans to keep their followers from thinking rationally about their claims.
The trouble with that easy answer is this: some of the less-extreme claims made by preachers of the power of belief are supported by the evidence. One especially tidy experiment found that when Asian women are given a standardized test, they do better if they are first reminded that they are Asian, worse if they are first reminded that they are women. And while the effects found in standardized tests are relatively small, the effects on one’s success in social situations can be enormous–anyone who doubts that should spend awhile studying Tucker Max’s website.
I’m somewhat sympathetic to the New Age types who see these facts and conclude there might be something to the idea that beliefs can cure the sick and protect you from burns. But unfortunately, there’s no evidence that mere belief is enough to get you a perfect score on a test, much less to do anything supernatural. More decisively, there are natural explanations for why beliefs have what power they do have.
The explanation for the social benefits of self-confidence is easy: the human brain is constantly drawing subconscious conclusions based on usually-reliable signals that we’d be more wary of if we realized what we were doing. For example, the free market ensures that price normally correlates with desirability, so price is a signal for desirability, but this means that in some situations, businesses have found that they can increase sales by raising the price of their goods. Similarly, hackers know that if they have a little bit of inside trivial about an organization–like names of employees–they can often use that to talk their way into getting whatever they want because, if you drop a few names, people assume you’re an insider even though no one is stupid enough to consciously think “top-secret information can be given away to anyone who knows the right names.”
What confidence does is act as a signal that we’re used to having things go well for us, used to having people respond to us well. So, when we see a confident person, we automatically assume that they have something going for them–and that will amount to a very big thing going for them.
Why confidence would have anything to do with standardized tests isn’t as clear, but there are a couple plausible evolutionary explanations. It may, for example, have something to do with not wasting effort in tasks you aren’t likely to excell on anyway. Or, it may be that in times past, when members of society who weren’t “supposed to” excell excelled, they tended to get put in their place in a rather nasty way.
But okay, you might say, just knowing that the loopier New Agers are wrong doesn’t tell us what to do with all this. What do we make of James’ argument? Should we accept that it’s sometimes rational to believe without evidence, or when the evidence is ambiguous? The problem with William James style arguments is that they fail to distinguish between practical rationality and having rational beliefs. It’s perfectly coherent to advise someone, as a practical matter, to believe things that are irrational as beliefs. Indeed, such advice sometimes is given (scroll down to #11; HT: Overcoming Bias).
And just as a practical matter, the sort of over-confidence most people have has real drawbacks. It gets in the way of understanding how the wold really is. It can lead you into foolish displays of cockiness. And for most people, all the little lies they tell themselves don’t add up to confident behavior, their behavior, rather, tends to betray their insecurities.
The path that gives you the best of both worlds–the benefits of real self-confidence without the costs of pedestrian self-deception–is the one where you do your best to see the world as it really is, including a realistic understanding of what greater self-confidence can do. This will allow you to have more self-confidence where doing so will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Also, it’s possible to behave more confidently independent of your beliefs about whether you’ll succeed. Instead of overestimating the chances of success, realize the costs of failure may not be as great as you’re inclined to think. And it’s possible to ask yourself “what would I be doing if I had no self-doubts” and then go do that, in spite of your doubts.
This is a test of the comments system.
No offense, but you are not a good writer. I’m not sure if you think you are really good, but if you do, let’s get that idea out of your head now – lest you be a hypocrite considering how much you like to rail against ungrounded faith. :p Anyway, if you are wondering how I actually found this outpost in the middle of no-man’s land, I actually went to High School with you and found out about your book because one of my friends brought you up and said you had a book out.
Anyway, back on point: Your writing has no flow, style, or substance. And honestly, you never deeply develop any of your points beyond simple “feelings” and explaining something in words of experience (i.e. You describe what women desire in men, as well as what confidence truly is, simple in your own poorly worded experiences rather than well-formed concrete ideas backed with evidence). This means you just come across as attaching to a very simple, nebulous idea in your head, automatically declaring it right, and then running with it full force. Worst of all, whatever point you are trying to make rarely comes through.
Also, the new-age stuff really isn’t all that crazy as long as you take it correctly (which many, unfortunately, do not). All it means is that you should let more virtuous and good ideas and concepts define your mindstream (especially subconsciously). Doing so – through meditation and hypnotherapy – can do much, much greater good for a person than any medication. Shyness, etc are more than often results of improper ideas we have about ourselves or others (usually both). If we can learn to love others and ourselves, and get competitive and ego-driven emotions and ideas out of our heads, the effects this has on all aspects of our causes and reactions that we make through life is astonishing. For instance, talking to a guy who stole your girl would be very hard – the hostility would cloud everything! Likewise, much milder hostility that litters our minds make everything more difficult for us. Of course, negative and cynical people like you would probably just think such a path of self improvement is gay and for pussies that are giving up.
Sorry, actually. That was a bit harsh. Your writing isn’t bad, but it just seems lazy. It reminds me of my own writing sometimes – where I just can’t properly translate my own ideas or concepts on paper. I know the truths, but I can only convey them in really simple ways that are probably huge generalizations. That type of thing is everywhere in your writing.
Yes, my approach to writing is lazy. This is the point of having a blog.
As for New Age stuff: maybe somewhere out there there is somebody who labels themself a “New Ager” but only says perfectly reasonable things, but if so they are the very rare exception to the rule. Seriously, last month I plunked down the money to read The Secret, and discovered that the author claims, in apparent seriousness, that with the right frame of mind, you can stop aging. Half the people listed as contributors to the book are old, balding men. ‘Nuff said.